Every child needs a
space to grow and be confident such that they can be all that God has created
them to be. While it is difficult to profile every influence that leads to who
a child eventually becomes, there are various apparent factors such as
genetics, parenting, experiences, friends, family, education and relationships.
By understanding the importance that these factors play, parents are better
able to raise happy children who will be ready to take on the world with a
smile on their face.
Consider these
influences as a building block. While most people tend to have the same basic
building blocks, these attributes can be assembled in an infinite number of
ways. Think of your own overall personality. How much of whom you are today was
shaped by your genetic background and how much is a result of your life time of
experience.
From the very beginning
of life, the involvement of heredity and environment works to shape who
children are and who they will become. Also the genetic patterns a child inculcate
from his/her parents tends to set out a road map for development, the outside
world can adversely affects how these
directions are played out, designed or even silenced.
Obviously the world we
live in can be stressful, but you must not allow it to affect your family.
Being a successful parent, it is necessary to take time to fully observe
exactly what your children need in order to be self- confident, happy and
healthy.
It is also fundamental
to note that the words we speak to our children create an ambience to them to
either thrive or fail. Proverb 6:2 says,
“You Are Trapped By The Saying of Your Mouth And You Are Taken By The Speech Of
Your Lips.”
What this simply means
is that, what we say to our children will affect how they see the world.
Many parents struggle
with finding the right scale when it comes to praising their children: How much
is too much? How much is too little? Is quantity that important or is the
quality of praise that really matters. Certainly, there is no proven formula,
but knowing the when, where and how of praising is a necessary tool in imbibing
confident in a child with a healthy sense of self-esteem.
Scientific research has
proven that not giving enough praise can be just as damaging as giving too
much. Obviously the children will feel like they are not good enough or that
you don’t care and as a result, may see no reason in going the extra mile for
their accomplishments.
One major factor to
take note of when giving praises is that “The quality of praise is more
important than the quantity. If the praise of the parents is sincere, genuine
and focused on the effort not the outcome, you can give it as often as your
child does something that warrants a verbal reward.
It is necessary as
parents to recognize our children’s efforts to push themselves and work hard to
achieve a goal.
Be More Precise;-
Being more specific is much better and it assist children to identify with
their distinctive skills.
Encourage Creativity;- Always Endeavour to
praise your children each time they try
out new things. E.g; like learning to ride a bicycle or anytime they tie their
shoelaces, washing dishes and for not being afraid to make mistakes. This
single act would proceed in helping to build their self-esteem and confidence.
Don’t Praise The Obvious;- Avoid excess praise
about a child’s attributes. If children begin to hear a consistence kind of
praise, it will begin to sound empty to them and have no value. Parents should
understand that too much praise can backfire, and when given in a way that is
insincere, makes kids afraid to try new things or take risks for fear of not
being able to stay on top where their parents praise has put them.
Be Honest;- Your praise as a parent should
always be real. Kids are very smart to note when their parents praise is not
genuine, and when it is, you lose trust. The kids become unsafe and they find
it difficult in telling the difference between when you really mean it and when
you don’t.
Say It When You Mean It;- Always recognize the
value of your kids hard work and efforts. This act will leave a blue-print in
their mind that you know the difference between when they work hard at
something and when it comes easy.
Concentrate On The Development;- Children should
be praise for their effort and hard work and not for their inherent skills. Not
every child will be excellent dancers or intelligent students or a successful
musician. Rather, children who learn to work hard and stick to it have a unique
talent.
Finally, praising your
children is a very vital part of building their self-worth and confidence. As
parents and guardians, it is our duty to create a suitable environment for our
children to excel. When we believe in our children, then they will learn to
believe in themselves.
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